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Ultimate Guide to Anal Fingering

Butt play doesn’t have to be intimidating, and it doesn’t have to go from naught to sixty in five seconds flat. Using your hands and experimenting with anal fingering is an excellent way to warm up for anal sex. Use your fingers to start small while experiencing big pleasure.

What is Anal Fingering?

Anal fingering refers to using your fingers to stimulate the anus and rectum. There are many different ways to use hands for anal pleasure, whether that’s internal anal penetration or external anal massage. Anal fingering can be done as part of foreplay, to prepare for penetration with a penis or dildo, as a way to access the prostate or g-spot, or on its own as the main focus of play.

Anal Fingering Basics

Remember the anal sex mantra of communication, relaxation, and lubrication. Communication and consent are important for all types of play. Never introduce any new kind of play as a surprise, and make sure that you and your partner are clear on each other’s areas of interest and boundaries. Relaxation is also important for anal play because of our sphincters.

Butts have an external sphincter, which is a voluntary muscle that we can control, and an internal sphincter, which is involuntary and needs the right conditions in order to relax so penetration can be easier.

Equally important is lubrication. The anus and rectum do not self-lubricate, so it’s crucial to use lots of lube to avoid causing any harm or pain during anal fingering. Remember to avoid any numbing creams or numbing ingredients in your lube when you explore with anal penetration.

Getting Started with Anal Fingering

Getting ready to put your finger(s) in someone’s butt requires a little bit of preparation. Always make sure your hands are clean and free of cuts, hangnails, or rough nails. Some people like to trim their nails before anal fingering, but if you’d prefer to maintain your nail length (or stunning manicure), you can also use latex or nitrile gloves. In addition to making your hands smoother, gloves help prevent fluid transmission and are an excellent safer sex tool. They also make clean up easier!

Some receivers of anal penetration like to use an anal douche or enema, while others just prefer a shower. All of these hygiene decisions are personal, so make sure you do what feels most comfortable for you. Make sure you have plenty of lube, all of your safer sex supplies, and maybe a slim vibrating plug around when you play.

When choosing a good lube for anal, choose a lube that is compatible with all of your safer sex supplies and toy materials.

We recommend using a thick water-based lube for anal fingering, which will be compatible with any toys and barriers and can also be used internally or externally all over the body.

Anal Fingering How To:

Start by exploring your partner’s body all over, making sure you’re both super turned on. Before you insert a finger into your partner’s anus, bring attention to the area and get warmed up by giving your partner an anal massage. Once you’re ready, try some of these techniques for anal fingering!

Anal fingering Tip 1: Start Small

Start anal fingering by inserting just your fingertip. Using the pad of your finger, gently pull down on the anal opening and slide your fingertip in past the first sphincter. Massage just inside the anal opening, providing a little stimulation to help relax the internal sphincter, while also bringing attention to the whole butt!

Anal fingering Tip 2: Once your partner is ready, slide one more digit in

If you find that you’re “hitting a wall” when trying to slide your finger a little deeper, that usually means the internal sphincter is not yet relaxed enough to insert anything. Try deep breathing, more warming up, or even giving an orgasm from other types of play, to make sure your partner is relaxed and comfortable.

Anal fingering Tip 3: Once you get past the internal sphincter, you can insert your whole finger

Now that you’re able to penetrate more comfortably, insert your finger further in and begin to thrust it back and forth. Pay attention to your partner’s responses and explore different rhythms and amounts of pressure. Check in to make sure you keep doing what feels good!

Anal fingering Tip 4: Insert a second finger

If your partner wants more intensity and a greater feeling of fullness from anal fingering, slowly insert a second well-lubricated finger. Try moving your fingers in unison or in alternating directions to learn what your partner prefers.

Anal fingering Tip 5: Don’t forget to stroke your partner’s prostate or g-spot

One of the great perks of anal fingering is having direct access to your partner’s prostate or indirect access to their g-spot. Once your fingers are inserted, feel around for the spongy engorged p-spot or g-spot area. Massage and stroke the area by curling your fingers forward in a “come-hither” motion (learn more about prostate massage here).

Anal fingering Tip 6: Extend one finger, while curling the other

To combine the feeling of deep penetration with the feeling of prostate or g-spot stimulation, try keeping one finger extended while the other is curled forward toward the same side of the body as the belly button.

Anal fingering Tip 7: Don’t neglect the taint

The perineum, which is the area of the body between the anus and the genitals, is very nerve-rich and sensitive to touch. Use your thumb to massage the taint externally while anal fingering your partner. For folks with prostates, this is an excellent way to surround the prostate with simultaneous internal and external stimulation.

Anal fingering Tip 8: Combine anal fingering with other types of play

Although anal fingering feels great on its own, it’s even better when you combine it with other types of play. Some people especially love receiving anal fingering while their vaginas are penetrated with the other hand, a penis, or a dildo. Others like having their vulva, penis, or balls stroked, rubbed, stimulated with a vibrator, or cupped while they receive anal fingering. Turn your butt play into double penetration and make your sex feel like a threesome by using both hands to stimulate your partner in different parts of their anatomy!

Anal fingering is one of many ways to enjoy anal play. Whether you’re enjoying a night of anal fingering or warming up for anal sex with a penis or dildo, enjoy the journey of exploring this amazing universal orifice!

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